I must thank you all from my heart for the well wishes and kindness. I don’t know if I would have had the courage without it.

Surgery was a little bigger than expected in that the surgeon needed to drill a  full 2 inches into my skull to get all of the infected bone.  When the surgeon woke me from anesthesia  he said it was to worst case he’d ever seen.  So I guess that explains why I’ve felt so poorly.  I tend to be an over achiever….so it’s just like me to get an infection that makes a surgeon say holy crap.

The pain has been more than I expected but does get better each day. I had surgery 4 days ago and am able to go a few hours now with no pain medicine!  I hate pain medicine so taking it at all is a big deal for me.  I took no pain medicine after my c-section because I don’t like the fog they cause.  This pain is much much worse than my c-sections.

My one ear is very swollen and I feel like I look like an elf from Lord of the Rings.  I have 7 stitches behind the ear with swelling on my face, ear and neck.  All of that said…..I am on the mend !!!!!  I bet I will be on my feet (without falling over) in days.   There is light at the end of this tunnel finally.

I can see myself re-joining the world and I can’t wait.   I know, you will all tell me not to push and I promise I won’t.   The truth is the pain runs the show right now so I am behaving myself.   My garden is a mess.  I see it from the window.  I know that will be top on my list.  I need to feed my sour dough starter too.  The poor thing must be almost at the end of its rope!  Don’t worry, I’m good at bringing sourdough starters back from the brink.

This house will soon smell of fresh baked sourdough bread and fresh sliced tomatoes from my garden.  I’m excited to be on the mend.   You all made this terrible time so much better for me.  I am a very lucky girl to have such wonderful friends….even though  we’ve never met in person.  extremely lucky I’d say.


Please excuse the typos….my vision is not yet back and I can’t wear glasses because of my Elf ear.


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36 Responses to Well I survived surgery…..oh my gosh the pain

  1. Jann says:

    Honey, you never do ANYTHING halfway! Now put that drive into rest and recuperation. We’ll be here when you’re ready…

  2. Well Madam Elf-Ear, we are glad you are on the mend! Hope the swelling and pain go away sooner rather than later. And yeah, glasses will certainly irritate the incision area and make it take longer to heal. Which equals more pain and slower recovery because not only will it bother the incision itself, perhaps infecting it, it will also rub on the bone (or lack thereof) underneath the incision. And that may cause the bone to either not regrow or regrow in a misshapen way (due to the pressure of the earpiece of the glasses pressing on the bone).

  3. Debbi says:

    At the risk of giving too much motherly advice, let your body tell you when you are ready to resume “life”. I found out first hand that my body knew more than I did when it came to my health. Please relax and take it slow. You will be back in no time. We will still be here.

  4. Pat says:

    Well, you know we’re all jealous wrecks ’cause we don’t have an Elf ear! :) So glad you’re improving daily and please take it easy. We’ll all be here when you return!


  5. Bobbi says:

    I am so happy you are on the mend! Prayers and good wishes are going out to you and your family!

  6. Sandra Megaw says:

    So pleased that you are on the road to recovery. Take time to mend. I can wait a bit longer for your beautiful recipes!

  7. Karen in OH says:

    In my granny voice I’m saying, “I hear that determination coming through . . . now just put that right back where it belongs — buried for now. Take baby steps getting back into things. Don’t want you going into relapse mode! Now just be good.” So glad your surgery came off ok (you must have really got that surgeon by surprise! LOL), and hubby sends his best, too (he’s always reading your emails over my shoulder).

  8. Mia says:

    Can’t wait, Missy!

  9. Dianne Morrison says:

    Bless your Heart!!!

  10. Norma says:

    Good news! This isn’t the time to overachieve. Just rest and control the pain. All the gardens, cleaning and bread will be there when you are well.

    Take care, hugs xoxo,

  11. Jo Ann says:

    They drilled two inches! That’s some hard head you’ve got there! :) I’m glad it’s over for you and you’re on the mend. We’ve missed you. Take the pain medicine if you need it. My our body heals faster if its not being stressed by constant pain.

    I set up two of the twelve garden planters today. Can’t wait to get some dirt and seeds in them. You inspired me to start gardening again.


  12. Teresa W says:

    I am so glad you have gone through the tunnel and are on the other side now. I thpught of you Wednesday, and said a prayer or two. I know you can’t wait to dust the cobwebs off your mixer and have fun in the kitchen again. I have no doubt you will listen to your body and let it tell you how much to do.
    I do hope you have at least felt well enough to have some snuggle time with the kids.

  13. Tonya says:

    So glad to hear you are on the mend! I have been checking for news on your site every day! Take care of yourself and rest!!!!!! I’m sure your hubby has been beside himself with worry over you. Your garden will be waiting for you once you’ve recovered. And you sure don’t want to scare the animals with your elf ear! God bless you and your family.

  14. Charlotte Moore says:

    How wonderful to hear from you. We were discussing about your surgery the other day. Wondering how things had gone for you. I tell you it has been one more ordeal to say the least.

    I would stay away from the school until Spring or later. You sure do not want 5 years old germs in your body right now. You need to stay far far away from them. At least the ones that are not yours. Hahaha!!! You can’t stay away from your own kids unless you are in the hospital.

    No more lectures from me on taking it easy. If you have not learned that by now no use on me telling you. Right??? Hahaha!!

    I am truly THANKFUL your surgery went well even if it was the worse the doctor had seen. You might make his medical history.

    PRAY you continue to heal and get your strength back soon.

    I was wondering how your garden was doing and what was happening to all your veggies. Who took care of your animals and what happened to all your eggs. I sure hope someone could use them.

    Thanks for the post on your health. We will patiently wait for your return.

  15. rett says:

    Wow Tamatha, you are an amazing woman, even with all you have been through, you still make me laugh. That is truly a gift of beauty.

    May blessings and healing be upon you,

  16. Ellen in Oregon says:

    So happy to hear that you are recovering from the 2nd surgery. You never want to be on a surgeons’ Best Worst Case list. It cracked me up that after all you have been through that you worry about your sourdough starter dying from hunger. Remember sourdough starter is replaceable, you are not. Recovering from the surgery & infection is not a straight line. Plan for each step you take forward, you will likely take 1 or 2 steps backwards the first few weeks. When the pain decreases significantly you will be wanting to do all 9 million of the things on your growing TO DO list in one morning. Trust me you will be compelled to push the limits. By afternoon you will be asking yourself “What was I thinking”? and spend the rest of the day lying on the couch. The following day you will have shortened your list of things that require your immediate attention. You will discover that you now have very little stamina. It takes weeks to regain your former pulmonary function & muscle strength. Bottom line is slow & steady win the race. I know that you dislike the side effects of the pain meds, but as you become more active remember to manage pain with the lowest dose that will control the pain. Leaving yourself in pain actually slows the healing process & bone pain tends to last longer than the incision/tissue kind of pain.
    When you see the surgeon for your follow-up appt. ask them if they can give you some mole skin so you can cover the part of your glasses that touches the surgery area. Mole skin is a super soft synthetic material with adhesive on one side that will help you to wear your glasses. Also, as soon as the stitches are removed the incision pain will decrease and the tissue will heal quickly. Because this may be a long term issue, I would suggest that you go to an optomitrist (when you are able) and have them temporarily reshape the ear tip so it minimizes the pressure on the bone.
    I am so happy that you are regaining your health and will soon be able to put life-threatening infections behind you. I can’t wait to hear more about your new studio & hen house along with all the other great parts of your life that you are so kind to share with all of your readers.

  17. Kara says:

    Bless you, for your positive attitude; when you are in such pain and have been … you go girl !!! Not too fast !!! Reviving the sourdough should be a safe enough place to start … Take care of yourself … We’ll be waiting for you to come back when you are ready …

  18. Mary Anne says:

    Oh my please just listen to all of your friends here, and take baby steps, and ask for help from neighbors or friends, we love you and alll pray for you

  19. yolanda says:

    Hi Tamatha,I looked on my cell last night to see you there, all I could say was she is back!!! soon we will have all the good stuff we missed You know wed is ash wednesday.then 40 days is Easter maybe you will be able to make all the goodies with some care for your self.happy to see your seeing the light at the end of this nightmare!!!love you!

  20. Theresa says:

    Dear Tamatha,
    I have saved a email for years. When I have had surgeries it reminds me to wait for the breeze. Hope it helps you to take it easy.

    Winds of Change – June 08, 2006
    God sent a wind to dry the land after the flood. It seems like such a small thing, just a God-sent breeze to drain a flooded earth. If I were Noah, I’d be looking for the big thing – the snap of God’s fingers that would dry the ground in a single second; the clash of a trembling earth opening up to swallow the excess moisture in one big gulp. But instead, a wind blew over the earth. Just a wind. And the ark floated.
    Noah must have looked at the wild and dangerous animals, smelled the effects of months aboard the ark, measured their dwindling supplies
    and wondered if the day would ever come when God would open the door and let them out.

    It happened… months later. Much longer than Noah and his family thought it should have taken. The winds of the Holy Spirit blew over the
    earth and accomplished God’s purposes in His perfect timing.Today I feel boxed in, hemmed into a corner, without choices. My situation has the smell of hopelessness, the odor of death. I want things to happen now. I’m impatient with God. Has he abandoned me? Has He forgotten his promises to me?

    In the midst of my situation, I smell a fresh breeze blowing over me, that God-breathed current that makes all the difference. That Holy Ghost
    discernment that open locked doors, changes closed minds, and reverses impossible situations.

    Come Holy Spirit!
    But God remembered Noah and all the wild animals and the livestock that were with him in the ark, and he sent a wind over the earth, and the
    waters receded. Genesis 8:1 NIV

    > Contributed by Candace Simar: simar@tds.net Candace is a freelance writer > from Pequot Lakes, MN. Her work has appeared in Dust & Fire, Lake
    Country Journal, Talking Stick, Talking 7th Street Blues, Country Echo, and Home > Health Care Nurse Journal.

  21. Nancy Villanueva says:

    Welcome back Baby!!! Love Mom

  22. Susan says:

    Remember…listen to your body!! Overachieving got you there, not sit back and rest; we’ll still be here, XOXO

  23. Maria says:

    So glad your surgery went ok, that nothing else in your head/brain was disturbed by all the drilling (wow 2 inches!!!) and that you are feeling good enough to write for all of us!

    Those pain killers are the worst, oxicodin is something created by a twisted mind, but hey if it takes the pain away. Maybe hubby can find some herbal teas to help soothe the pain, if doctors would allow it.

    Take good care of you, like everyone else says, we are not going anywhere, so we’ll wait until you’re truly good.


  24. Erica says:

    Get well soon! I’m glad the surgery was a success!

  25. Lanell says:

    So glad to hear your on the mend!! I have REALLY MISSED your emails! I look forward to them and the ones that crack me up I share with my hubby :) Get well soon!
    Prayers from Arkansas

  26. Karen in Ocala says:

    So glad to hear that your surgery is over and you are healing!

  27. Charlotte Moore says:

    Thinking of you!!! Sure hope and PRAY you are gaining your strength back.

    You can see how you are missed.

    • Judith says:

      Hey babe! They said it all. Love you!

    • Tamatha says:

      I’ve missed chatting with you. I’m on the mend but slower than I expected. That is an awful surgery! But I’ve been looking at food again so I must be betting the itch. I cooked twice so far. Really super simple stuff but it was my first time touching the stove in forever. I was delighted….then so tired it made me cry.

      I’m feeling excited again. Have spent some time out with the goats and chickens and have loved it. The fresh air felt wonderful. I bought butter….I’m ready to try a simple something in the baking world….soon. :)

      • Charlotte Moore says:

        Sure have been concerned about how you are doing. It was nice to see you had left a note. I am sure it was tiring to cook after being so long unable too. It takes alot out of us after a serious illness.

        Truly hope you will be able to be back to your spunky self very soon.

        GOD BLESS!!!!

        • Tamatha says:

          THank you so much Charlotte, I really have missed you. I have been suffering some complications from my surgery. Its been a rough road but I am trying to keep my spirits up. I have no balance right now due to swelling in my inner ear. I’m not having any fun. :( I figure it could always worse so I try and look at it that way. I cannot wait to be back in charge of my life. I thank you so so much for your thoughts. :)

          • Jo Ann says:

            I’m so sorry to hear you are still having issues. Hope it all clears up soon!


          • Charlotte Moore says:

            Oh, no!!! I knew something was wrong since you had not been on your blog in a over a month to update. I am so sorry for all you have been through. We never know how something we think is so minor can end up being very major. PRAY you will be on the mend real soon. I know it has seemed an eternity to you. Take care!!

          • Tamatha says:

            I’ve really missed you. I really have.

  28. Mich says:

    Gosh poor you, I cant believe you are still feeling so unwell.
    Hope you get better really soon so you can get back into your kitchen and garden.

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